As an educator, creating a Montessori environment was second nature to me. But when I became a parent, especially during the pandemic, I quickly realized that practicing Montessori principles at home came with its own set of challenges. While Montessori emphasizes freedom of movement, exploration within limits, and nurturing independence, I found myself drawn to Magda Gerber’s RIE philosophy, which also prioritizes respectful caregiving but acknowledges the use of “containers” like cribs and playpens as tools for safety and self-regulation. These weren’t strictly Montessori, but they became essential tools for maintaining a balance between my child’s independence and my own needs.
Here are three non-Montessori items that I never thought I’d use, but that became my lifesavers:
1. The Crib
Montessori advocates for a floor bed to promote independence, and my initial plan was to use a bassinet and transition to a floor bed when our baby was ready. I set up a mini crib to serve as a bassinet, not intending to use it for long. I specifically chose this mini crib because it was the only one I could find made of solid wood and free of MDF and formaldehyde.
However, when my son faced medical challenges at three months old, we had to adjust our plan and continue using the mini crib. It provided the security we needed during that challenging time. Once his health concerns were resolved around the age of two, he transitioned smoothly to a floor bed, just as I had hoped from the start.
2. The Bouncer
When my son was born, he was happiest when held, often cradled in my nursing pillow. But with time, a friend gifted me a bouncer, and it became a game-changer. My son developed severe reflux, and the bouncer allowed him to stay upright, easing his discomfort. For parents of babies with reflux or GERD, a bouncer can be a lifesaver.
What I loved about this bouncer was its simplicity—it moves naturally with the baby’s own motion, unlike many modern bouncers with mechanical parts. It is made with non-toxic materials and prioritizes safety without overstimulating the baby. Its ergonomic design provides proper support for the baby’s back, neck, and head, while the fitted fabric seat distributes weight evenly. I used the bouncer after feedings to help with digestion, for short periods of playtime like watching mobiles, during transitions, and even when I needed to prepare food. Yes, it restricts movement, but it gave me peace of mind and a much-needed break, knowing my son was safe and comfortable.
3. The Playpen
As my son outgrew the bouncer, I went on a mission to find the perfect playpen—one that would allow him to move freely while still keeping him safe. I discovered a handmade, non-toxic playpen on Etsy, crafted by a French-Mexican couple. Unlike traditional playpens, this one creates a true yes space, allowing for unrestricted movement and independent exploration. Unlike enclosed play yards, it doesn’t confine movement but provides a secure space for safe self-directed play.
It’s large—expanding up to 71 inches in diameter—yet foldable and easy to store, which made it a perfect fit for our narrow Boston apartment. Over time, it became our son’s safe place—his own cozy spot where he felt secure and at ease. Assembly takes just a minute, and its natural materials blend beautifully into our home. To make it even more Montessori-friendly, I rotated toys in baskets and initially used the cabinet behind it as a Montessori shelf. Hands down, one of the best purchases we made.
Finding Your Own Balance
As a parent, it’s important to remember that you are the most vital part of your child’s environment. It’s okay to adapt and use tools that aren’t strictly Montessori if they help you meet your child’s needs—and your own. Using non-Montessori items doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re finding the right balance for your family. After all, parenting is about flexibility and making choices that work for everyone.
